“Do family laws reflect the realities of families with elderly and/or disabled family members?” Every element of that question raises further questions. They must be answered in the context of the fundamental reorientation of legal systems that I believe must lie ahead. Each element implies categories. But such categorisation conflicts with the principle that human rights are universal. We must seek not rigid precision, but centres of meaning. And, while we are all together here, I would like to explore whether we can agree three basic points of English-language terminology.